There is no time like the fall for getting cozy inside with a good book, or as is increasingly popular, a good podcast.
LISTEN to Episode 12 of the Essential Stepmom Podcast hosted by Tracy Poizner where I talk about the challenges of infertility, particularly in the context of being a stepmother, and the mindset that can help us grow through this incredibly difficult journey.
The need for resilience in order to navigate the ups and downs of the infertility journey is an understatement. This year, my work in the area of infertility had me engaging in thought provoking conversations with some very inspiring women. Jennifer Vanier is one of them.
I was e-introduced to Jennifer, after she put out the call for a psychologist to contribute to a retreat she was organizing for women who have experienced infertility and/or pregnancy loss. It was Jennifer’s compelling story that made participating and supporting her event a no-brainer for me. As you can read on her website, Jennifer and her partner know too well the grief and turmoil that come with pregnancy loss. She also knows what it is like to be dealing with such life changing events with few to no professional resources to assist her and her partner in their small community outside of Peterborough. Rather than accepting the status quo, Jennifer decided to do something about it, and has been working to bring infertility services to her community. The retreat was just one of the things that Jennifer started in order to do just that.
Nikki Bergen is another woman who some of you might know as a result of her work in the Toronto wellness and fitness community as well as her decision to share her story regarding the challenges she and her partner face as they too turn to infertility treatments to try to conceive. Nikki was kind enough to grant me an interview soon after she “came out” on social media, and I am telling you, she drops some serious wisdom in both parts, particularly in Part 2.
When we did the shoot, I wanted to make sure that Nikki was clear that the only way we would do this is if the process was good for her. Well, I am happy to say, that in the months that have followed since this interview, Nikki has watched it in order to help herself benefit from the wisdom that came through in her own voice. Click here to see what I am talking about.
Both of these women exemplify what it means to Grow Forward in the face of life challenges. There was nothing they did to deserve the challenge that life gave them. And this challenge did not happen in order to teach them the lessons they have learned and continue to learn. Life dealt them what it dealt, and at some point they made a decision to engage with the process, and to make use of the experience to serve themselves AND others. As a result, they have evolved into an even better version of themselves.
These women, the others I had the pleasure to meet at the retreat, the clients I have seen one on one, and others I have met personally have inspired me to do more. And so, starting this fall I have put together a very special group, to support women on this journey so they too can benefit from the growth that this life challenge has for them. And I am bringing a kick ass lineup of some serious women’s health warriors with me who are just as passionate as I am.
The group is called Growing Forward on the Path to Parenthood. Click here to learn more. If this is not your particular struggle, I encourage you to share the information about this group with anyone you believe will benefit.
This group for women challenged to conceive is just the beginning. For those of you who have learned about the group and have told me that you wish you could participate in a similar group to help you deal with the challenges of rebuilding your life after divorce, or are struggling to find the balance as a busy career woman, or are dealing with the challenges of another serious illness like cancer, or the loss of a loved one, I want you to know that I am thinking about you too.
My vision is to make Growing Forward a community..dare I say a movement. My vision is to create a place, on line and in person, where people who are similarly focused on Growing Forward through whatever life might bring, can come together to learn and share tools that work. A place with good information as well as inspiration, so that you, we, can support each other to Grow Forward through anything.
If this sounds like something that you believe would be of value to yourself or others you know, please reach out and tell me the issues you would like to see as a focus of this offering.
I am here to listen and ready to serve.
Dr. Stacy
Here it is: The long awaited Part 2 of my interview with the amazing Nikki Bergen on her process of navigating the challenges of infertility.
In Part 1 Nikki gets real about what this journey has been like for her, what led to her choice to share it with the world, and the benefits she has experienced as a result.
In Part 2, she goes even deeper and shares insights that are relevant to all of us, no matter what challenge life might bring. Watch. Absorb. Learn. Share. Discuss. This is only the beginning of the conversation.
Thank you again to Nikki Bergen for being so generous and open with sharing your experience and wisdom with all of us. My hope is that participating in this conversation, has been as beneficial to you as it will undoubtedly be for others.
Have you been challenged with infertility and/or pregnancy loss? Would you like to participate in a moderated group designed to help you move through the inevitable feelings of grief and reengage with living fully again? Please email me. I would love to hear from you to gauge interest as well as obtain your input as to how this group can be tailored to best suit your needs.
Best,
Dr. Stacy
Designing Your Life certainly involves setting goals. But it also requires the ability to see reality clearly, with an attitude of acceptance of what is, and an openness to embracing the process. This is one of the lessons shared so eloquently by Nikki Bergen who had the courage to reveal on social media that she is dealing with the challenges of infertility and had the grace to grant me the opportunity to interview her on camera so that we could all benefit from her wisdom.
This is definitely an interview you want to make the time to watch. Because as much as the focus is on the experience of infertility, the lessons from this specific challenge are relevant to the process of living fully when the one thing you believe you need to be happy seems out of reach.
This is Part 1 of 2, 20 minute videos with Nikki, shot so beautifully by the amazing Robert Young who was kind enough to lend me his talent for this project.
My hope is that you will set aside the time not only to watch, but also reflect. What stands out to you about what Nikki has to say about the lessons of her challenge with infertility? What do you think about the choices she has made to cope? How might this be relevant to your own situation?
As always, I welcome and encourage you to share this video with anyone and everyone you think could benefit.
And if this was helpful to you, please let me know.
This is just the beginning of the conversation. I look forward to seeing how it will continue.
Dr. Stacy
